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puszysty at 06:25pm on 16/11/2009
puszysty at 06:25pm on 16/11/2009I've been approved to take time off to go home. This comes on the same day that my friends from home announced they want to make plans for the holidays. *sigh* I hope they remember I don't have a car.
One of my friends in said group just had a baby last month. Is it bad of me that I really hope she doesn't bring the kid to whatever gets planned? If she does, everyone's going to be cooing over it the whole time, and frankly not how I want to spend the little time I have with said friends. Plus the fact that, and I'm sure I've mentioned this before, I really really don't like kids. Especially babies. (This is also part of the reason I don't date. I know my chances of finding someone who doesn't want kids is slim.)
I know it's unfair to slap the experience of the few onto the many, but I have had not so positive experiences with new parents. When my relatives had kids, they lost all semblence of their own personality. After reading The Feminine Mystique, maybe that's the product of being children of the 60s, who knows. After grandma died, there was no one left on that side of the family I could relate to anymore. My aunts and uncles only talk about 2 things: what's going on in their kids lives, or their own lives back in the 60s/70s. Although now that my oldest cousin is 13 (yes, oldest), we actually managed to have a real conversation last time I went to a family function.
In conclusion: I'm worried that my friend having a kid is going to completely screw up the dynamic we've had for years. Am I legitimately concerned? Or just overblowing it?
One of my friends in said group just had a baby last month. Is it bad of me that I really hope she doesn't bring the kid to whatever gets planned? If she does, everyone's going to be cooing over it the whole time, and frankly not how I want to spend the little time I have with said friends. Plus the fact that, and I'm sure I've mentioned this before, I really really don't like kids. Especially babies. (This is also part of the reason I don't date. I know my chances of finding someone who doesn't want kids is slim.)
I know it's unfair to slap the experience of the few onto the many, but I have had not so positive experiences with new parents. When my relatives had kids, they lost all semblence of their own personality. After reading The Feminine Mystique, maybe that's the product of being children of the 60s, who knows. After grandma died, there was no one left on that side of the family I could relate to anymore. My aunts and uncles only talk about 2 things: what's going on in their kids lives, or their own lives back in the 60s/70s. Although now that my oldest cousin is 13 (yes, oldest), we actually managed to have a real conversation last time I went to a family function.
In conclusion: I'm worried that my friend having a kid is going to completely screw up the dynamic we've had for years. Am I legitimately concerned? Or just overblowing it?
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