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posted by [identity profile] blue-crow.livejournal.com at 03:57am on 06/04/2010
I'd probably think letting someone take you on a date (instead of say, dinner as friends) and letting him pay is way more likely to give him the wrong idea when you don't really want to date than a skirt would. D: I mean I guess it could depend on the skirt, but...

I mean if you're really not looking, you could have been upfront about that- friends are always nice to have, but boys following you around hoping to get something you're not that willing to provide are kind of a pain. Though I guess it could be fun if that's what you like. I just think you're more likely to keep someone as a friend if you start a friend and not revise dating to friendship a few dates in.

I mean then again this guy doesn't sound like he was really worth the effort, so...
Edited Date: 2010-04-06 04:06 am (UTC)
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posted by [identity profile] puszysty.livejournal.com at 04:40am on 06/04/2010
Well, I guess, when a guy asks "hey, wanna meet up?" my first instinct is not usually "date". I'm not very practised at this sort of thing.
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posted by [identity profile] blue-crow.livejournal.com at 05:11am on 06/04/2010
Oh, yeah, that sounds... I don't know. I think it becomes a date when you let one person pay? But I guess social interactions are all sort of nebulous anyway.
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posted by [identity profile] safenthecity.livejournal.com at 04:05pm on 06/04/2010
Unless you run into the sort of guy who insists that guys always pay, endstop. I knew a guy like that in high school... if girls hung out with him, even if it was clearly established friendship, he paid for their food. He didn't care how much you argued. And in the end we kind of gave in because he was rich and spoiled and it was no skin off our nose.
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posted by [identity profile] kappamaki33.livejournal.com at 11:33pm on 06/04/2010
I will add my completely irrelevant 2 cents of I don't think I'd be able to let a guy pay for my meal--not a judgment call, just a me thing. Hence, I'd probably confuse guys in the opposite direction. ::shrugs:: "Wanna meet up" is ambiguous, but does anybody actually *say* "wanna go on a date"? I don't know.

But yeah, dating is weird. I've always thought our culture does things the wrong way around. Wouldn't it make more sense to get to know somebody, *then* date?

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posted by [identity profile] puszysty.livejournal.com at 11:48pm on 06/04/2010
I had a friend like that in high school too. Drove me batty
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